Tuesday, April 29, 2008

Adoption is no vending machine

I heard last night of a blog (which I have yet to find) made by the all american couple wanting a child. They already have one blonde blue eyed child and are wanting to adopt another. Except there is one thing wrong with this story. They want a child so badly and so much that they are treating the process like a damn vending machine. I was told that the blog was basically them asking their friends and family to help them find their perfect child. Which MUST be a "girl" and she cannot be anything but a caucasian girl. Are you kidding me? I personally would never give my daughter to someone like that. And might I add that I have been through the whole adoption process. The couple that is now my daughters family forever couldn't be more selfless and perfect for a child needing to be adopted. First of all when they were chosen by me one reason was because they were so in love that you could see it ooozing off the pages of their profile. They were willing to take anything they could get because they wanted a child so badly and had so much love for that child that you could literally feel it just by looking at their photo. I'm pretty sure they didn't have a race or gender in mind. And what if they wouldn't of known what I was having? Is this family going to get to know a birth mother only if she is having a girl? What if she delivers a boy on accident? What if they finally get that call that there was a baby ready but then they were told it was a black little boy? I am sorry for being so mad but I am. This bothers me. A child is beautiful regardless of there gender/race. And have we as a society gotten so vain that the perfect family is able to be bought like a candy bar? Adoption is so serious. It is so exhausting on both ends. Giving my daughter away so so so painful. But it was so much easier to get through that pain knowing who had her and why. I dont mean to go off on this "blog" but I just dont see how someone can be so ridiculous. bla.

4 comments:

Smith Crew said...

You go girl-- really.

Tifani said...

Hear, Hear!!! I totally agree. There are so many kids out there that are in need of a loving home. There are more important things to be concerned about while adopting a child then the sex and color of his/her hair. How about the type of parent you want to be and how you will love the child and help him/her feel apart of the family. Those people shouldn't be allowed to adopt if their #1 priority is making sure the kid fits their idea of a perfect child.

Rogers Family said...

I couldn't agree more with you and with what Tif had to say.. What a joke that family is.. Lets be honest.. Beggers can't be choosers.. That is so Terrible.. Love ya Linds

Exquisite Effects said...

I totally agree with everything you said! That is horrible and I hope they don't get a child, at least not until they are in the right place in their hearts! Adoption is such a beautiful thing, and I'm grateful to mothers like you who are willing to give their child a good home and choose parents who really deserve that child.
But as someone who is going to start the adoption process soon, because I can't have anymore biological children, I do take a little offence at what Carley said about adoption couples, calling us 'beggers'. That is pretty harsh!